Try entering the latest new restaurant in town this weekend. Chances
are you will see at least one group of well-groomed ladies, (could be any
age-group), exuding warmth, confidence, exuberance and camaraderie, holding
glasses of mocktail or wine with practiced ease while catching up with other women friends. Is this a
new trend in the making, one that concepts such as Women on Wanderlust (called WOW
in short, where women travel with a group of other women to exotic destinations)
or Ladies nights at pubs across Indian cities are trying to cash in on?
Growing up, I have to admit I did not have a lot of friends
who were girls.
While some were busy being Queen Bee, others were equally
busy being the followers. Few were lost in the world of would be boyfriends and
some were lost in preparation for their would be careers. There were power
games and ever changing rivalries with cold shoulder tactics and gossip used at
strategic junctures to cut people down to size.
I found very few girls I could connect to – girls who wanted
to just learn, read, sing, laugh and not try to be a damsel in distress
waiting for her knight in shining armor. And the ones who dared to be
different, were often labelled as misfits or worse in the world of budding feminine graces and wiles.
I could count literally count 4 or 5 such girls through school and
college who became really close friends and still remain so despite being
oceans and continents apart.
But, in my 30s now, happily married, with a husband, kid and
a job, I suddenly find myself surrounded by more and more such really inspiring
women friends.
Strong, independent women who have their own careers and
lives and who fight their own battles from potty cleaning to boardroom
meetings.
Women, who manage the politics of office as easily as they
rock the parties, soothen their nagging maids and tell stories to their
children. Women who are not doormats, who are not sorry for themselves but who
live and inspire other women and even men, each day. Women who are secure in
their relationships and their roles without losing themselves in a mad rush to
be the perfect wife/mother/daughter/employee and fulfill other age-old societal norms
and expectations.
People say women are their own worst enemies. But working
women, and even more specifically, working moms of today share a pretty special
bond, I would say, one that can easily rival the ‘old boys club’. I wish them
more power and more luck. Hopefully more and more women would join their ranks
and the guilt and doubt that all of us go through as working mothers would be
something we can accept and face more easily.
Yes, my salute to these women of today. They can very well face the world without marriage or men.
But still, many of us find happiness, companionship, respect
and admiration in our spouses and also in our men friends.
So, for the men who are strong enough to be the partners and
friends of todays' women, I am reminded of Sheryl Crowe’s song “Are you strong enough to be my man?”. Hats off to these men for not judging us and not being intimidated us but rather for always being
there for us. My salute to all of you as well..
Hope our daughters and sons will continue this journey as they grow up and we have a society where women cease to be treated as objects but rather get the respect due to all individuals.
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